Have you ever had someone do or say something to you that made you so angry?

Something that you thought was irresponsible, inconsiderate, unnecessary or just mean?

I think everybody will have an experience in their life that they can link this with. What most people do next is focus on that anger and frustration. And because what they focus on becomes their reality, they end up creating a very negative idea of the other person keeping them from looking at the situation from a higher point of view.

Often they’ll start asking rhetorical questions, like,

‘Why would he do that?!’

or

‘What was she thinking?!’

They ask these questions but they don’t answer them. If you can relate to this as I sometimes can, try answering those questions.
Why?

Because people do the best with what they know at that specific time.
If they knew better, they’d do better.

The trick is to put our own negative emotions to the side for a minute and look at the situation through someone else’s perspective and to understand why they did what they did. There might very well be an understandable explanation. There is always a reason for people’s actions.

What’s the point in wasting all of our energy in anger, frustration or even sadness?

How does that benefit us? Does it make us happy?

Harry Singha taught me that “Anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” Instead, we should use our energy to find a solution. Go and talk to that person. Try to not let ourselves get carried away by our negative emotions and calmly explain to them how we felt and that we want to understand their perspective as well.

My mum inspired me one morning by saying,
“Everyone sees the world through their own experiences. If you look at it differently, it is different.”

It’s like looking through a different pair of sunglasses. Just try not to pick the ones with dirt and scratches on the glass.

What I want to share with you is this:

Focus on people that empower you. Then you can be an empowerment to someone else, because what you focus on becomes your reality.

With thanks to Marlon Smith and Kathy Buckley for teaching me this incredible stuff and love to Alexandra DiRuscio Cooper for giving me this opportunity to share it with you!

Elise Droste

Superstar Leader!

Seeking Outreach Team!

Posted: April 15, 2011 in Uncategorized

Hey all! I am looking for a few amazing people to join my Outreach Team.

Awesome Outreach Members will be:

Young & Energetic

Passionate

Innovative

Creative

Goal-Oriented

 Outreach Members do not need to be good at coloring inside the lines, or staying under the radar. I am looking for people who can create their own strategies and are confident enough to put them to action.

 No experience necessary, this position is all about learning and doing. 

 Outreach Member Compensation: Commission based with fun & exciting bonuses! In addition, they will receive tons of support, great new connections, opportunities to grow, team webinars, flexibility, experience working with people, and so much more!

Email me: alexandradiruscio@hotmail.com for more information.

To find out more about what I do: www.alexandradiruscio.com &www.yourlifeourworldteens.com

Please pass this along to anyone you think might be a great candidate! :) Thank you!

New Year’s Resolutions

Posted: January 11, 2011 in Uncategorized

Following the first bullying video on WHY people bully, here are some solutions to getting rid of and stopping bullying!

Keeping with the pattern of excellence that has been highlighted throughout the past Leader Spotlights, this month is no different. I’ve been fortunate enough to connect with an incredible young person, just 20 years old, who is a self published author, speaker and entrepreneur.  Sabirul Islam is young man who has published his own book, The World at Your Feet and since then has been speaking and putting on motivational events and workshops.  His Teen-Trepreneur brand helps young people understand how to run a business from start to finish.  Sabirul’s mission and vision for The World at Your Feet is “to enable the growth of young leaders and young entrepreneurs through the vision and network of other successful young entrepreneurs. It provides a continuation of entrepreneurial growth.”

Even those who have such a strong drive and passion to succeed, have faced some challenges throughout the process. The difference maker between succeeding and failing is this: they didn’t let those challenges hold them back, instead they learned from them and propelled forward with full force. Sabirul would agree with this, saying that his biggest lesson is to never accept defeat and failure because “it’s something you will have to learn from and pick yourself up again.”  This is such a powerful message and he truly is a testament to the accuracy of that belief.

And now to my favorite part, the amazing and valuable advice that our leaders would give to young people like you!

Sabirul wants you to know that a successful person is simply a person who isn’t afraid to fail and has the courage to take risks and to believe in what they want. Realize that success isn’t always about money. I’d love to share with you something I’ve learned that is very similar to Sabirul’s message here. Guy Kiwosaki says “Focus on Making Meaning not Making Money” because like Sabirul says, it’s about a way to make change. Adding value and meaning will cause you to attract success in any way that you define it.

And for those of you who are young social entrepreneur’s you are in luck, here is a great piece from Sabirul himself:

For a young person to succeed within the business world, I also feel the following need to be achieved:

  • Young entrepreneurs must always have a vision…They must think big but start small.
  • They need to believe in who they are and the ideas they create.
  • They must do a lot of networking and connect with as many people as possible.
  • A young entrepreneur should not be scared to ask for help and must always take risks
  • Most importantly a young entrepreneur should always illustrate positivity, passion and perseverance to make ideas a success.

I hope that seeing all of the incredible success that Sabirul Islam has created in his life and how it’s positively benefited those around him will inspire you to step up and believe in what you do! You never know whose life you are going to touch while you pursue your passion.  I would love for you to connect with Sabirul and learn more about his book The World at Your Feet and his business’ including Teen-Trepreneur.

Check out his TEDTalk Here: 

The World at Your Feet Site: www.theworldatyourfeet.com

Teen-Trepreneur Site: www.teen-trepreneur.com

TEDx Talk: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JHvZK2rNO1c

The World at Your Feet Book: http://tinyurl.com/2fstcw3

Twitter: http://twitter.com/Sabirul_Islam

Inspired by the It Gets Better Campaign — answering the question of “WHY?” when it comes to bullying.

Part 2 to follow, answering the question of “HOW?” to alleviate the effects of bullying.

3rd Grade Goal: Dream Big!

Posted: September 9, 2010 in Uncategorized

Be you because everyone else is taken

Heads Up! Did you know…?

Posted: August 17, 2010 in Uncategorized

Some pretty crazy/surprising/fun statistics about TEENS:

  • Teens having sex without using contraceptives have a 90% chance of getting pregnant within a year!
  • 50% of teen texters send atleast 50 text messages a day–that adds up! [Do you prefer calling or texting?]
  • Each day 3,900 teenagers will smoke a cigarette for the first time.
  • Surveys show that Chips are a teens favorite snack
  • 20% of 8th graders (that’s right..8th graders) have been drunk and 40% of 10th graders have been drunk.
  • The average household has a TV on for over 7hours!  [What are you watching?]
  • 1 in 4 sexually active teens have an STD!
  • 8 young people die everyday due to alcohol related car accidents [Have you gotten your license yet?]
  • How do you guys spend your money? Clothing is number one. [Do you have a job?]
  • 35% of teens have experienced Cyber Bullying
  • Obesity in teens has tripled over the last 20 years! [Are you taking care of your body?]
  • In 2000, the average teen girl spent 11 hours on the phone and 16 hours online per week–I bet that’s tripled!
  • In the same survey as above, it reports that teenage guys spend over 11hours playing games on the computer a week.
  • According to the Teen Choice Awards 2010 here are your faves: Twilight, Family Guy, Gossip Girl, Justin Bieber, Taylor Lautner and Megan Fox

It’s up to you! What statistics do you want to be a part of in your life?

Have fun! Keep on rockin!

The exciting WHY!

Posted: August 12, 2010 in Uncategorized

Ever wonder why two people can attempt the same thing and get very different results?

Or have you ever wondered why you have a goal that just seems less then exciting to aim for?

Well I’ll tell you!

When you’ve got a goal, a target or a vision, you not only need to be clear about WHAT it is, but also be clear about WHY it is something you want. Why it’s a must. Why it’s exciting.

This “WHY” is something that should be exciting, specific, inspiring, passionate.

So that along your entire journey of moving forward, you remember this WHY and it gives you even more momentum and even more power to focus in on that outcome.

So instead of saying that you want good grades simply to go to college, why not make it more exciting and specific. I want to get good grades so that I can go to cowboy university to one day become the first ever astronaut cowboy!

Wouldnt that be a little bit more exciting to study for your next test?

Have fun with it and remember, never sell yourself short…DREAM BIG because once your WHY is big enough, the How just falls into place.